Saturday, April 30, 2016

I Saw Bob Mould, Ted Leo, and The Thermals and Barely Took Any Pictures, 4/28 - 4/29/16


Well, I Took a Few

Two nights in a row. Two straight nights, I headed into New York for shows without even bringing my "real camera." For the first time in a while, I went back to the roots of CoolDad Music and attended shows purely as a fan with an eye toward maybe writing about them and maybe not. Now, I couldn't go two straight nights taking absolutely no pictures; and of course I was gonna write something, especially since the whole experience felt so good on so many levels.

On Thursday, Gentleman Jim and I headed to Bushwick's Market Hotel to catch the second of two New York-area shows this week by The Thermals. Joining the Portland, Oregon band on that bill were Philadelphia's Amanda X and Thermals' tourmates, Summer Cannibals. I took no pictures.

It was pretty weird for a while there. Market Hotel is right next to -- I mean right next to -- the subway (or el train in Bushwick, I guess), and the trains pass right by outside a big window. There's a window onto the platform right behind the stage, and it makes for some dramatic images. I saw so many pictures I wanted to take. Summer Cannibals' lead singer, Jessica Boudreaux, silhouetted against that back window. Thermals' frontman, Hutch Harris, staring into a green stage light as he sang. There were a couple of photographers up front using flash; and, almost every time I muttered, "take the shot" under my breath, I'd see a burst of light.

I mentioned all this to Jim, a sound man, and he said, "We've made our fun our jobs. Kind of the opposite of 'do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life.'" And I guess that's true to an extent for me. Taking pictures at shows has really become part of the way I experience them; but it was almost as fun to say, "There's one. Oooh. There's another one," while not being weighted down with gear. It also gave me the opportunity to watch a show without fighting for a clear sight line to the band that was appropriate for the focal length of my lens.

And it was a great show to watch without all those concerns. Amanda X won me over about two songs into their set. Summer Cannibals were noisy and psych-rocky, Boudreaux a real personality on vocals and guitar. The Thermals just blew me away, focusing heavily on songs from The Body, The Blood, The Machine, which has its 10th anniversary this year, and their latest album, We Disappear. Boudreaux joined the band on guitar helping to fill out some of the album arrangements that would be difficult to play as a trio, and the crowd went berserk from the first chord.

As we drove home, I relished that feeling of having just attended -- not having necessarily just "covered" -- a show I really loved.

On Friday, Bob Mould played Webster Hall with Ted Leo. The last two times that Mould came through the area, I fully planned to have CoolMom join me. She is a fan of the highest order. As is often the case, however, circumstances made that impossible. Twice. This time, it all worked out. CoolMom finally had her date with Mr. Mould, and all would be right with the world.

It was an early show, and we took our places along the railing just after 7pm. No photo pass this time. No Sony mirrorless camera. I did bring my Lumix LX7, the camera I used for pictures here for the first year or year and a half of the blog. It's a point and shoot, so I never get hassled about bringing it into venues. We were standing first row, stage right.

With CoolMom's encouragement, I snapped a few pics during Ted Leo's opening solo set; but, for the most part, I just watched and listened as Leo charmed as he always does. He played a mix of old songs like "Me and Mia" and "Timorous Me" and new, unreleased material.

When Mould and his band, which absolutely slays and includes Jason Narducy on bass and Jon Wurster on drums, took the stage and rattled off a pair of songs from Sugar's Copper Blue ("A Good Idea," "Changes") followed by the big "hits" from Mould's latest records ("The End of Things," "The Descent," "I Don't Know You Anymore") without a pause in between, I could feel the warmth emanating from CoolMom right next to me. The band were taking no prisoners and squeezing as much as possible out of the early set.

I couldn't resist taking a few pics. Bob Mould was positioned stage left -- about as far from us as he could be -- which made me feel a little less compelled to go crazy shooting-wise, and my camera spent a good portion of the show sitting idle in my hands or in my back pocket.

By the time we got to the Hüsker Du portion of the evening, CoolMom was smiling from ear to ear; and I was letting the sonic wave wash over me. After "Hardly Getting Over It," she looked at me and said, "I always loved that song."

I screamed along with Jon Wurster, who handled frontman duties while Ted Leo played drums, on a cover of The Ramones' "Beat on the Brat" during the encore; and the whole place sang along with closer, "Makes No Sense At All."

The show ended by 10. As we walked to the car, CoolMom said to me, "When he opened with all those songs, I almost started crying." I've felt that way many times, but it's always great to be reminded how great it feels, how utterly transforming it can be, to lose yourself at a show. For me, it feels even better than nailing a perfect shot.

The shots I did take of both Bob Mould and Ted Leo are in the galleries.

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

Full-Time CoolDad

3/5ths of our 2009 Jersey Shore Relay Team: MomVee, CoolAunt, CoolMom

A Long Time Coming

CoolMom and I used to do the Jersey Shore Relay every year with a group of friends. It's a marathon relay from Seaside Heights to Asbury Park, and you split the running among four or five people. My dear friend MomVee and I were standing on the boardwalk in Point Pleasant waiting for one of our teammates to come in; and I told her that my dream was, one day, to leave my corporate job and to just be a stay at home dad. I think that was 2009. That feels like the first time I ever voiced that to someone outside CoolMom and me so matter-of-factly and not in the heat of some work stress or something. There was no CoolDad Music at that point.

Since then, my desire to leave Corporate America has become an incessant refrain from me for anyone willing to listen (or just stuck with no way out, I suppose). CoolDad Music has taken over as my main source of professional (if not financial) fulfillment. Yesterday, I made my dream a reality and put in my two-weeks' notice with no back-up plan other than being a dad, running CoolDad Music, and getting myself back on track health-wise (maybe even race-ready). CoolMom is (unsurprisingly) extremely supportive of the decision, and I couldn't be happier. We've planned and laid the groundwork for this for years, and I realize how lucky I am.

I won't screw this up. I won't squander this opportunity.

I will now be a full-time:

Dad
Husband
Music Blogger / Self-Styled Journalist / Photographer

I hope that means that I can grow CoolDad Music into something "more" ... Whatever that might be. Expand coverage somehow? Go beyond Asbury? Maybe to Brooklyn? Philly? The world? I'm not sure. However it looks, CoolDad Music will always retain its personal focus; and the site will never become just an aggregator for news and info that you can find repeated at all of the big music sites.

This will be an adventure, for sure. It's scary, because it's new. It's scary because I haven't not worked for someone since I've been about 13 or 14 years old. But it also isn't scary because we're a great team here at CDMHQ. We've all got our leg of the relay to run, and we all cheer each other on the whole way.

Stay tuned.

Monday, July 28, 2014

I Go to Lots of Shows "By Myself"

Pavement, 2010. The first show I ever attended alone.

You'll Never Walk Alone

I've been going to concerts since I was 14 years old. My first one was in September of 1984, the night before I started high school, for Yes at The Garden State Arts Center in Holmdel.  It was the Trevor Rabin-in-place-of-Steve-Howe 90125 version of Yes, and I went with my friends Bill and Dan. "Owner of a Lonely Heart," "Leave It." I was pretty into that record at the time. Danny and I used to listen to The Yes Album and Fragile incessantly in his room while we played Jumpman on his Commodore 64.

That started a long run of going to shows for me that never really stopped. I didn't really spend any time going to punk or hardcore shows in DIY spaces. Never really paid attention to any local bands. It was always the big bands that I heard on WNEW -- The Who, Eric Clapton, Tom Petty, The Firm (Paul Rodgers, Jimmy Page, Chris Slade, Tony Franklin. At Madison Square Garden.), Dylan and The Dead (horrible), Bruce, Dire Straits, The Kinks, Pink Floyd, Elvis Costello. I usually went with a group. Sometimes I went with just one person. I never went alone.

One day I heard R.E.M.'s Life's Rich Pageant, and the bands I chose to see kind of changed -- R.E.M., Camper Van Beethoven, Billy Bragg, 10,000 Maniacs, They Might Be Giants, The Replacements, Sinead O'Connor, The Cure, Matthew Sweet, U2, The Pogues. I started listening to WHTG instead of WNEW.

In college, my buddies and I started going to this place called the Mondo Cane Blues Bar over on Thompson St. I was heavily into my alternative rock phase at this point, but I still had a soft spot for the blues. There were blues acts that played there regularly. This guy Johnny Allen and his band would do fantastic covers and originals. Blues Traveler, Joan Osborne, and The Spin Doctors were kind of house bands there as well. Before they were famous.

As an adult, I've always gone to more shows than my contemporaries. It's just the way I like to spend my time. Some people garden. Some people play golf. But, basically, if CoolMom couldn't go with me; I didn't go. So, by my standards, I missed a lot of stuff.

Then, in 2009, Pavement announced a reunion tour. Tickets for their Central Park shows went on sale a full year in advance. I snapped up a pair; and, in what may be considered an early, primordial version of this blog, I spent the next 52 or so Fridays posting Pavement or Pavement-related songs to my personal Twitter feed for my 35 followers. #PavementFriday. Remember blip.fm? Is that still a thing?

When you're a grown-ass adult with kids, it's kind of hard to say what you'll be doing on any single evening that's a year away; but it was a midweek show. I didn't think there'd be an issue. Back to School Night 2010. I told CoolMom that we couldn't make it to the school. She decided she had to go but absolved  me of responsibility. I attended my first-ever concert alone. I was 40 years old. It rained. Lightning caused a break in the set. It was wonderful.

A few months later, The Decemberists hit the road in support of The King Is Dead. CoolMom got strep throat. She told me to go, so I went alone. I was sold.

Something about being in a group of like-minded people who enjoy the same things as you do is beautiful. You're absolutely never alone at a show. There are 50, 100, 300, 800, 2000, 20000 people there with you. There was the guy at the Sebadoh show who told me how Lou Barlow's early recordings changed his life. There was the great couple I met at The Feelies show in Hoboken. There were all those kids at FYF who went to see Jonathan Richman without knowing who he was and all ended up dancing by the end.

Plus, the ability to enjoy things the way you want to is liberating. Want to linger over dinner or a beer beforehand? Go ahead. Want to arrive at doors? You can do that. Want to stay through the second encore? Have at it. Want to leave after 20 minutes? You'll get home early.

I became addicted to going to shows "alone." You can see that here and at Speak Into My Good Eye. But, over the last couple of years, a really funny and wonderful thing happened as I went to more and more shows by myself. I made friends. Really good friends. Friends who understood and shared my love of music. Friends who didn't tell me I was nuts for going to so many shows. For the first time -- with the exception of a relatively small existing group -- I got to know people who made me feel like I was at home. Like I was me. I started to feel happy for the first time in a long time. I became a better dad. I, hopefully, became a better husband.

I owe everything that CoolDad Music has become and everything that it's done for me to CoolMom. "You should go. We don't both need to be at Back to School Night." "Sebadoh are in New York. You should go see them." And, through a haze and a veil of sleep at 2AM on a Tuesday, "How was it? Did you have fun? Good."

I never feel alone at shows anymore. There are too many coolpeople at every show with whom I can chat or enjoy a soft drink. If there's something that you're just dying to see, don't miss it because you can't get anyone to go with you. Head out. You won't be sorry. You won't be alone. Hell, I'll probably be there. If we're both lucky, maybe it will be one of those nights when I've got CoolMom with me and I'm showing her off to all of my friends. Those nights are still the best.

Friday, December 21, 2012

CoolMom's Birthday Edition

Happy Birthday Friday

So, I've already got the "Songs That Mention Christmas But Aren't Christmas Songs" playlist.  This one, I guess, could go on a "Songs That Mention Birthdays But Aren't Birthday Songs" playlist.

Doesn't matter.  I've always loved this song, so I'll post it here for the best, most understanding woman in the world.

Happy Birhday, CoolMom.

Rock on...